Random Thoughts

This is a collection of essays about topics I feel strongly about. In no particular order: growing up, coming out, transitioning, marriage, and navigating day-to-day challenges. I’ll keep writing, as new thoughts cross my mind.

  • Dad, Please Trust Me

    Dad, Please Trust Me

    I had a discussion with my therapist, trying to understand why some trans people are able to see their path clearly during childhood and transition early, while I was unable… read more.

  • A Real Vacation

    A Real Vacation

    It’s summer, and naturally I have vacation on my mind. But where do I really want to go? What does it take to have a perfect vacation? It’s something very… read more.

  • Why I Paint my Nails

    Why I Paint my Nails

    In the past couple of years, I have made a lot of progress. Not only with my transition, but also regarding my mental health. I no longer doubt who I… read more.

  • The Meaning of Pride

    The Meaning of Pride

    June is Pride Month, with the biggest parades usually happening over the last weekend of the month. And as Pride events become more and more polarizing, this is a good… read more.

  • Cisgender Hypersensitivity Syndrome

    Cisgender Hypersensitivity Syndrome

    I know, I know. I shouldn’t engage with trolls on social media. It never leads anywhere good, and it harms my emotional well‑being. But I am also an optimist. Call… read more.

  • Still Me

    Still Me

    This is a song I wrote shortly after coming out to my family, capturing the thoughts I had on my mind at the time. I hope to record it sometime… read more.

  • Transitioning with 50+

    Transitioning with 50+

    Thanks to my parent’s early interventions, I grew up socialized as a boy. And while things looked okay for a while, the marks left by their interventions became visible during… read more.

  • Letter to an ex-Friend

    Letter to an ex-Friend

    Dear [ex-Friend], It’s been a month since we last spoke, and I miss you tremendously. I miss the moments that we spent, discovering a new world together. I miss hanging… read more.

  • Growing Up in the 70s

    Growing Up in the 70s

    I was born in the late 60s in Hamburg, Germany. My parents were upper‑middle‑class: educated, employed, free of existential threats, and center‑left leaning. They fed me, provided a stable home,… read more.

  • Hello world!

    Hello world!

    Hello world — I know you weren’t sitting around waiting for yet another website about trans struggles. Still, I hope this one manages to lift its head above the weeds.… read more.